Here is a short video I made to encourage your participation in LOVE!
It is time I began my love ministry.
It is so painfully obvious to me that Love,
indeed IS the only answer to our big, nasty
mess in the world. Most of us do not have
the training we need in Love. We have
parents, ministers, teachers and leaders
that do not understand Love. But we know
it when we are in the presence of it.
We consult our egos before, during, and
after our interactions with others, our daily
decisions, and our major plans. But we are
missing the point in so many ways. I plan
to write here in these pages my awareness
of how and where love works and where it's
absence hurts us even when we aren't
aware of it directly.
I see in every day behaviors my own lack
of love and hope that in exploring it more
in depth I can begin to make better, more
loving choices, choosing Heaven on Earth,
with my beloved brothers and sisters (and
that means my entire family, friends,
neighbors, and world at large).
If you don't think the world matters to you,
take a look in your closet or pantry. There
are things you have in your home that have
come from so far away... shipped all the way
here on a tanker.
Someone designed, grew, assembled, picked,
packaged, sold, transported, stocked, unpacked,
accounted for, or managed those who did in
unimagined numbers. We truly are all connected
in ways we don't stop to consider.
If you live off the land in the woods off the grid
then you are still affected by every bit of
pollution, waste, and material use in the breath
you take. (Plastic fibers are in the air every
where and global climate change is happening
each and every day somewhere in the world).
I had been feeling hopeless, despairing of any
way to stop this global egoic madness but now
realize it is my call to ask for each and every
one of us to start living from Love instead of
Egoic Fear. Love for ourselves, for each
other, for our precious home Earth, because
it ALL comes back to us eventually.
Our choice to choose Love over Selfish Ego
fears (a fountain of self-fulfilling prophesy)
is the answer to ALL of the world's issues.
Are they complex and messy and inter-
related in ways we cannot untangle? Of
course! They have had aeons to develop.
But we don't have aeons to turn them
around. The time for Love is now and I
plan to start a daily mindfulness about
how and where love can prevail as a
Starting today, now, I decided to NOT
do any of the other important (and not
so important) tasks that are constanly
pulling at me and I chose to start my
Love Ministry. Here and Now. With
this first choice.
Thank You for participating at any
level you can. With a prayer, a
blessing, a kindness shown ANY
person or animal or the Earth. I
plan to start asking myself with
each choice I am making, "Is this
TRULY good for me in the long term?
as well as good for the entire world
We cannot make more loving
choices and decisions and actions
without questioning them first.
It's the start of a New Way Of Life
for ALL of us, Please join me here
and let's make it happen together,
Blessings to Us All,
What is it about Holidays that makes anything
unfortunate in someone's life seem so much
worse? People give more to charities at Holidays
because for some reason, being homeless,
hungry or sick seems that much worse at this
time of year.
At some level, it does seem worse because if you
are in a geographic location that is Dark, it can
seriously affect your biology. But apart from that,
is there really a Worse time to get sick, lose your
job or home, or to have your spouse leave you?
I used to blame my spouse for leaving me right
before Christmas but with time and distance and
wisdom, I realize heartbreak is heartbreak and it
wasn't any worse than any other time of year,
other than I told myself that. (And I got to be a
big victim – Yuck!)
WE give events the meaning they have for us!
That is why they are special to us and not to others.
Some people love solstices, or Halloween, or
Homecoming, or Birthdays and others are
completely indifferent about them.
My Father seems to detest Christmas (PTS from
WWII spent in a foxhole with other kids whose
prayers for life were not seemingly answered),
his sister loved it (she loved to shop and give gifts
all year), my Mother dreaded it I think (her favorite
day of the year is the day AFTER and her favorite
Christmas was the one she stayed home alone with
the flu in quiet contemplation with the Lord)
My sister and I love Birthdays, my brothers ignore
or are indifferent to them. and my Beloved seems
to like ALL Holidays and Birthdays and any
opportunity to party and be with his family.
Each of us has a different meaning we give them
based on what we tell ourselves about them. I like
Birthdays because it is an opportunity to celebrate
someone just for their existence AND that can be
done any (or every) day of the year.
When I met Mike he introduced me to the concept
"Make Every Day Earth Day" and I liked that
sentiment (and live it) so much I adopted it for
relationships... "Make Every Day Valentin's Day"
and I think it translates well to the meanings we
give our Holidays.
When we make every day Holy, and we treat each
other as if they matter and we share our love and
acceptance freely, we can let go of the idea that any
particular day on a calendar has be to worse than
any other day for life to happen on. And when we
make every day Holy, with love in our hearts,
nothing can be as bad as it is it when we don't.
If you think making every day a Holiday will take
the specialness out of any given day, you haven't
tried it. I just spent this morning in bed reading
fiction and it was spectacular. It isn't what you DO,
but the attitude and meaning you bring to it.
Just try it, starting now. Think of THIS DAY, TODAY
as a special day worthy of your love and presence.
Then Enjoy the sh*t out of it, meaning look for
every opportunity to Bless yourself and the World.
Happy Being Alive Today!
If you need help getting through the Holidays
and recovering your Love Life, contact me for
a complimentary "Bridge Over Troubled
Waters" coaching session by emailing to
ninapottercoach(at)gmail.com or you can
schedule it here:
Where do we start? I propose with our breath, our very life force. By practicing Heart-Focused Breathing:
As I contemplate how I am showing up in life today, in my work, with my mate, my friends, family and community, I am struggling against the DO monster.
I long to BE, but all of my past programming is screaming at me to DO.
"Take this action and that action and
DO SOMETHING, and get it all DONE. "
There are unfinished projects (many of them never
past the initial "buy a program or a book" phase)
and even more un started ones.
It can be so easy to get trapped in the cycle, and to
forget that what is MORE important than the DOing,
is who and how I am BEing WHILE I am Doing.
It does me little good (and potentially harm) to do
anything without my heart involved. That means
I have to be present WHILE I am Doing.
It's one thing to be Present while I eat, or exercise,
or meditate, or pray, or even write or study. But to
be Present and In my HEART when engaging with a
client or my Sweetie or a friend, family, or neighbor
is to really BE living in a connected way to life.
This is the Foundation for Relating, no matter
who you are engaging with in any moment.
HOW I show up in any activity will color and
shape my experience. All it really takes is an
awareness, in the moment, to drop down into
my heart and be aware of my energy. What
is the field I am generating?
Rupert Sheldrake wrote about "Morphogenic
Fields" and how they affect the material plane
that we all swim in. You have experienced this
phenomenon whether you were aware of it or not.
You walked into a room and you FELT something.
It might have been joyful excitement or it might
have been gloom or anything in between but you
FELT it when you entered the space.
You can create your OWN field just by being
present and accessing your heart. Your heart
electromagnetic waves have been measured
several meters out from your body, unlike the
inch or two of your brainwaves.
Knowing this, try bringing an open and loving
heart to your next activity. ESPECIALLY if it
involves a loved one. If you are having issues
with someone you care about, it will be even
more critical to meet them with this open and
loving heart and an intention to LEARN.
Set up this field no matter WHAT you are doing
and see what it feels like to be BEing as you
do what you do. Experiment and enjoy the
fruits of LIVING FULLY no matter what you have
More on this next time when I share the
practice of Blessing Everything.
Just warming up,
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Whether you have read the ebook on Inner Bonding
or not, I HIGHLY recommend this 7 week course
on How To FINALLY Learn to Love Yourself by Dr.
You can access a free sample introduction to see
if it is something you would benefit from here:
Do you know that self-abandonment is one of the
major causes of anxiety, depression, loneliness,
addictions, and relationship problems?
You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel when
you discover how to value who you truly are, how
to heal old false beliefs, and how to connect with
your personal source of higher wisdom, love, and
This 7-week virtual workshop will give you a roadmap
for understanding how to love yourself in ANY
relationship — with a partner, family, friends,
children, parents, co-workers, and professionals.
The tools of Inner Bonding will give you the ability
to heal fears of rejection and engulfment that may
stand in the way of intimacy — as well as giving
you the tools you need to move out of codependency
and into emotional freedom.
As you learn how to see, value, and love your true
self, you will discover what has heart and meaning
for you, what gives you passion and your life purpose.
In the first session, “Beginning Your Inner Journey.”
* 4 different aspects of yourself that need to be
understood and eventually integrated
* The intent to learn about loving yourself and the
intent to avoid pain through some form of
* Various forms of controlling behavior that stem
from self-rejection and self-abandonment
* How to integrate your essence, ego-wounded self,
loving adult and higher Self on another level
* The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding
* A practice to make you aware of the consequences
of each intention
Seriously, I love this work SO MUCH that I recently
completed a 9 MONTH course with her through this
same SHIFT NETWORK. It's amazingly effective when
you practice it!
Hope you can check it out as even this free intro
call is full of useful content:
"A common affliction in our society is what is called the Sinatra Syndrome - a do-be-do-be-do imbalance - caused by too much doing and not enough being. So if you find yourself spending all your time being a doer, relax, take a break and do a beer instead."
-- Swami Beyondananda
HaHaHA!, one of my favorites from Steve Bhaerman's
alter ego, the one and only Swami Beyondananda.
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I feel your pain when a situation is not what you
imagined for your life or the life of another.
That could be your marriage or career, your spouse,
your child, parent, neighbor, or someone you don't
even know who lives far away and is hungry or in a
war zone or reeling from a mass shooting.
When we feel strong feelings about something, whether that be sadness, anger, or despair, it is a signal
that we are experiencing something we are not aligned with.
It is an opportunity to be aware of what we want INSTEAD!
These early warning signs can be useful to help us
identify what we want to move toward. When we can
accept that what IS is what we have to move from or
away from, we can still find contentment IN our
situation as a “Growth Edge” for our personal
development and evolution.
That does not mean we have to settle for any kind of
contentment WITH it.
We want to have the drive and motivation (or Better
Yet, INSPIRATION) to make changes in our (or the
world's) situation but not at the Expense of our
Well Being, which is all about being content with
When we strive to find solutions to issues we are
not content WITH from a place of Well Being (or
contentment IN), we have better outcomes.
We are able to work better with those we are in
conflict with, resulting in more of what we want.
We access higher intuition and creativity and are
able to make better choices and decisions.
If you are trying to make changes in your life or
the life of others, stop for a moment and notice
if you are trading your inner Well Being for nothing
and thus hindering your success.
There will be less friction and resistance to your
efforts when you approach this situation from
your contentment in your growth and learning while
you do the work of changing that which is
In Love and Awe for YOU in your efforts,
P.S. If you yearn for both more contentment in your life
AND for changes in what you are experiencing, contact
me for a complimentary Loving My Life Now coaching
session to see what can be possible for you!
Call me at 651-214-6803 or email to
nina(at)ninapottercoach.com or schedule your 30
minute consultation at http://meetme.so/ninapotter
Hello My Dear One,
I often talk about how you need to Love Yourself
in order to be able to share the love you HAVE,
rather than try to 'get' love from outside yourself.
The Inner Bonding Method with Dr. Margaret Paul is
one of the fastest ways to learn how to get the
healing, liberation and ability to live in joy that
we all crave inside.
I’m excited to introduce you to world-renowned
psychologist Margaret Paul’s tools and practices for
receiving deep, unconditional love… from within.
I’d like to invite you to join her on Wednesday,
October 4, for 6 Steps to Finally, Truly Loving
Yourself: How to Access the Love You Never Received
& Live in Profound Joy.
You can find out more and register here for this
FREE virtual event: Click HERE
During this special session of the Inner Bonding method,
you’ll find out about techniques for working with your
emotional pain, anxiety and fear — so that you can form
healthy attachments with the parts of you that have felt
unworthy… and truly LOVE yourself.
In this free virtual event, you will:
* Receive insights into the core cause of depression,
anxiety and most addictive behaviors, from substance
abuse to technology.
* Discover the 4 most common signs of self-abandonment --
and how to fill the emptiness from the INSIDE.
* Realize the #1 cause of relationship problems… and how
to address it.
* Begin to access your “causeless joy” and your
intrinsic worth independent of outer circumstances and
The process of Inner Bonding teaches you how to “parent”
yourself at the deepest levels so that you can finally
experience true love for yourself… consistently.
Join us for this illuminating and practical hour-long
virtual event by registering here: Click HERE
I will be there too because I learn something every time
I hear Dr. Margaret Paul speak (and I just finished a 9
month immersion in her method!)
Let's Share our Well Being,
P.S. Everyone who registers for "6 Steps to Finally,
Truly Loving Yourself: How to Access the Love You Never
Received & Live in Profound Joy" will also receive the
AUDIO RECORDING afterward. (I re-listen to these many
As always, if you want one to one private coaching,
contact me at 651-214-6803 or schedule your session