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6 Steps to Finally, Truly Loving Yourself

9/28/2017

Hello My Dear One,
I often talk about how you need to Love Yourself
in order to be able to share the love you HAVE,
rather than try to 'get' love from outside yourself.

The Inner Bonding Method with Dr. Margaret Paul is
one of the fastest ways to learn how to get the
healing, liberation and ability to live in joy that
we all crave inside.

I’m excited to introduce you to world-renowned
psychologist Margaret Paul’s tools and practices for
receiving deep, unconditional love… from within.

I’d like to invite you to join her on Wednesday,
October 4, for 6 Steps to Finally, Truly Loving
Yourself: How to Access the Love You Never Received
& Live in Profound Joy.

You can find out more and register here for this
FREE virtual event: Click HERE

During this special session of the Inner Bonding method,
you’ll find out about techniques for working with your
emotional pain, anxiety and fear — so that you can form
healthy attachments with the parts of you that have felt
unworthy… and truly LOVE yourself.

In this free virtual event, you will:

* Receive insights into the core cause of depression,
anxiety and most addictive behaviors, from substance
abuse to technology.

* Discover the 4 most common signs of self-abandonment --
and how to fill the emptiness from the INSIDE.

* Realize the #1 cause of relationship problems… and how
to address it.

* Begin to access your “causeless joy” and your
intrinsic worth independent of outer circumstances and
accomplishments.

The process of Inner Bonding teaches you how to “parent”
yourself at the deepest levels so that you can finally
experience true love for yourself… consistently.

Join us for this illuminating and practical hour-long
virtual event by registering here: Click HERE

I will be there too because I learn something every time
I hear Dr. Margaret Paul speak (and I just finished a 9
month immersion in her method!)

Let's Share our Well Being,
Nina

P.S. Everyone who registers for "6 Steps to Finally,
Truly Loving Yourself: How to Access the Love You Never
Received & Live in Profound Joy" will also receive the
AUDIO RECORDING afterward. (I re-listen to these many
times)

As always, if you want one to one private coaching,
contact me at 651-214-6803 or schedule your session
here: http://meetme.so/ninapotter

Care Package for Stress and Anxiety

9/25/2017

Relief is available from my favorite Resource!

https://www.heartmath.com/freeresources/

It has been harrowing watching my Sweetie ride out
Hurricane Irma and her howling Category 5 destrucion
only to have BOTH Jose AND Maria on her heels.

Fortunately he was able to get a sea plane ferry off
the decimated island of St. Thomas and a flight out
of St. Croix so he was safe and sound before Maria
hit there again.

Between the horrific destruction on Puerto Rico and
so many beautiful Caribbean islands, the toxic chemical
flooding in Texas along with TWO devastating Earth
quakes in Mexico and lethal flooding in Nepal, there
is a LOT of collective fear, stress, and anxiety going on.

Please share the above link with anyone (including
yourself!) that may be feeling the effects of life and
it's unending challenges so that they might begin the
healing and important growth from them.

I know these tools work, because I have been using
them with great success.

Be WELL with added Heart Focused Breathing,
Nina
P.S.
If you want additional help in building up your
resiliency battery, schedule a complimentary
Wellness Jump Start session to explore the
possibilities!:
http://meetme.so/ninapotter

Peace begins INSIDE, but this Helps too!

8/27/2017

During 11 Days of Global Unity, leading changemakers from around the globe will be gathering for this powerful event — sharing a comprehensive blueprint of practical evolution for a peaceful, sustainable, transformed world.

Be among a worldwide community of proactive peacebuilders who are discovering how to BE peace while promoting peace…

I know that you’re Big Hearted too and I’d love to have you
join these powerful 11 days:
RSVP — at no charge!:
11 Days of Global Unity

I invite you to tune in each day as the amazing speakers
discuss and celebrate 11 campaigns for change:
September 11 – Unity with Marianne Williamson
September 12 – Interdependence with Michael Bernard Beckwith &
Steve Farrell
September 13 – Environment with H.H. Sheikh Abdul Aziz
September 14 – Economic Justice with Nwamaka Agbo
September 15 – Health with Dr. Rangan Chatterjee & James Maskell
September 16 – Children And Youth with Carlos Palma
September 17 – Women with Sande Hart, Despina Namwembe &
Tiffani Sharp
September 18 – Human Rights with Robert Thurman
September 19 – Freedom with Ralph Nader
September 20 – Disarmament with Jonathan Granoff
September 21 – Peace with Deepak Chopra

RSVP here — at no charge:
11 Days of Global Unity

Here are just a few highlights from what they’ll be
sharing with you:

Deepak Chopra will examine the nature of peace…
whether peace is possible amid the widespread
polarization in our society, and the connection
between individual compassion and health and
collective wellbeing and peace.
Marianne Williamson will discuss the importance
of unity for America and the world — now more than
ever — and she’ll reveal her inspiring spiritual journey
from A Course in Miracles to activism and politics.
Ralph Nader will explore current threats to freedom
and democracy, concentrations of wealth and
power, political polarization and intolerance…
and offer various solutions to these challenging issues.

Michael Beckwith and Steve Farrell will consider the
social, political and environmental challenges for our
completely interdependent world — offering words of
wisdom and inspiration around values, ethics and spirit.

Nwamaka Agbo will speak to the catastrophic rising
economic inequality, how it’s threatening many aspects
of our society, and what we can do about it.

Sande Hart will address the challenges women face
around the world, and explore local-to-global solutions
for women’s empowerment — including the mission
and activities of the Charter For Compassion’s
Women and Girls Sector.

Robert Thurman will shed light on the current
human rights situation for the people in Tibet…
as well as the social and political turmoil in the
United States and its implications for Tibet.

Tiffani Sharp will share about exciting and
innovative projects in women’s empowerment
around the world — including the the hopeful work
she’s doing to confront the realities of human trafficking
on local and international levels.

11 Days of Global Unity is produced in partnership with We,
The World, a non-profit organization that develops
global networks of collaboration and organizes
campaigns to build mass involvement in creating a
peaceful, caring and sustainable world.

Join in, and end summer on a high note… inspired by ALL
of the great ways peacebuilders are uniting around the
world to create a better world that works for all!

RSVP here — at no charge:
11 Days of Global Unity

GET FIT TOGETHER! (Even if They don't want to)

5/29/2017

Starts Monday!
Free Summit to Help You with
proven strategies for unifying your family in health/fitness...
[21 Experts Share Their Secrets]

Want to learn the secrets of unifying your family on the path to health/fitness and ultimate happiness?
Great! Because I’m speaking in an exciting interview series brought to you by Dr. Paul and his wife Bethany.

We’ll be joined by 20 other leading experts who will be sharing their latest, cutting-edge tips & strategies to unify your family on the path to health & fitness for
FOCUS ON FITNESS TOGETHER SUMMIT
Here’s what you will be discovering:

Tips for making food fun for the whole family and strategies to deal with picky eaters
Super successful couples do what other couples refuse to
Tips to make your home a health/wellness sanctuary
Self-reflection is number one step in change for self and family
How well-meaning partners or friends interfere with fitness goals and tips to deal with this situation.
And much, much more!

This event is going to happen once. That means if you miss out on registering now, you miss out on it forever.
But here’s the best part:
It’s 100% free.
So, that means, all you have to do is claim your spot by registering below:
Sign me up for this free event

Be sure to sign up because during my interview, I’ll be sharing with you some great advice on uniting your family in health/fitness and ultimate happiness!
Look forward to seeing you in the summit!

Be WELL,
Nina
P.S. If you need more one to one help, you can schedule a personal session with me by using this link: http://meetme.so/ninapotter or call me at 651-214-6803 or
email to nina(at)ninapottercoach.com

An Opportunity for More Happiness and Ease

5/12/2017

Hello Dear One,

While I am out of the office conducting the latest
Magical Marriage Retreat, there is an opportunity
to learn some useful skills (including the ones that
built up my resiliency so I could handle my broken
arm so graciously).

It's time again for my favorite HeartMath free webinar
through the Shift Network. You can register at
no cost for the free introductory call (once
registered you will receive a link to the recording
whether you attend live or not) AND you will get
access to the follow up Q&A call too!

Register to learn scientifically validated, simple
practices to be heart-happy, wise, and resilient:
https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/3k/ninapotter

Practice ways to experience more joy, ease and a
sense of flow throughout your day.

You have heard me talk about these tools before, so
this is a chance to go more in depth whether you
just listen to the 2 free calls or take the whole
course.

Enjoy!
Nina

How To Tell If You Are Loving Yourself

5/10/2017

Hello Dear One,
How can you tell in any given moment if you are
open hearted and loving yourself?

Think of someone who you often judge for hurting
you in the past. Notice how you are feeling about
them right now. If you ran into them in a public
place, what would be your reaction?

This is an excellent measure of how you are feeling
about yourself in this moment.

When we are expanded, open and accepting of ourselves,
we feel that way toward others. We are able to
experience them as they are without judgment and pain.

When we are contracted, judging and unloving toward
ourselves, we will feel that way about this "other"
person. We see them as flawed, defective and missing
something important, just as we see ourselves in that
moment.

Stop and take a deep breath, dropping attention down
into the heart. Be with the breath and the heart and
Remember Who You Really Are. Remember that you are
not separate, but one with all life and every element
and loved by your Source (you can call it God, The
Universe, All That Is, etc.).

Notice when you are feeling uncharitable about others
and reflect on how you are feeling about yourself.

What are you judging about yourself in this moment?
Can you bring compassion and understanding, love and
acceptance to yourself in this moment right now?

If not, ask yourself why not? What is it that keeps
you from loving and accepting yourself right now?

Notice again if you can love and accept yourself as
you are in this moment. Notice any shift. then think
about that person you were judging harshly just before.
Notice how that may have shifted with how you are NOW
feeling about yourself.

Tell yourself "Everything is Always Working Out" and
Enjoy a shift in experience toward more easefulness.

Be Well and Enjoy The Ride!,
Nina

P.S. If you need help with processing hurts from the
past contact me for a New Perspective Session by
calling 651-214-6803 or or email to:
ninapottercoach(at)gmail.com

Magical Marriage and Retreat Option

1/8/2017

Dear One,
You know how when you experience a really
close moment of connection with your partner,
close friend, child, or pet, it feels... well...Magical?

Sometimes you may experience that Magical
feeling when you're alone in nature or meditating
or praying or watching a movie or reading a book.

What IS that Magical feeling and how do we have
MORE of them?

I was listening to an audio of Don Oscar Miro
Quesada (a world renowned Shaman), and was
captivated by his description of “Magic” because
it seemed to capture it so well.

“Magic brings together consciousness, matter,
and cosmos or what we know as mind, body and
soul. Magic becomes as natural as a sunrise or
sunset or a rainbow. Magic infuses our lives!

Magic has nothing to do with illusion or trickery but
rather embodying the majesty of creation through
our felt reverence for the sacred gift of life.

It's an attitude rather than an effect. It is an openness
to the enormity of what it is to be alive within this
cosmic dance.”

Wow. I found that arresting in it's Truth.

If you would like to experience the Magic of Sailing
(wind, water and island hopping) in the Caribbean or
Lake Superior while learning how to eliminate the barriers to
connection and promote more Magic in your marriage,
we can custom create our Magical Marriage Retreat
aboard a monohull or catamaran of your choice.

We will be enjoying the adventures of island hopping
in the sailing mecca of your choice where we spend
the mornings learning how to be Relationship
Masters (instead of disasters) and the afternoons
swimming, snorkeling, island exploring or having a relaxed
read or nap.

Come Sail With Us and enjoy a Magical Marriage Retreat!

For more information click here:
http://www.playinyourmarriage.com/retreats.html

Give me a call 651-214-6803 or email to ninapottercoach(at)gmail.com
to discuss the possibilities.

The Best Solstice Gift Ever

12/21/2016

Dear One,

The greatest gift you can give your loved ones and
yourself (and world at large if that is important to
you), is the gift of Self Love and Acceptance.

I am not talking about a narcissistic or self-obsessive
disregard for others, but rather a genuine, filled
up okayness that allows you to SHARE the love you
feel rather than try to Get something from another.

I discovered a beautiful and EFFECTIVE little
exercise from Dr. Keith Witt while listening to his
monthly podcast with Jeff Salzman. The link to the
whole discussion follows but let me share Dr. Keith's
wonderfully simple exercise here first:

HOW to develop Self Love and Acceptance:

1) While focusing on the sensations in your chest,
ask yourself this question "At this moment, am I
willing to love and accept myself no matter what?"

2) If you feel a pleasurable relaxation in your chest,
the answer is probably "Yes" so enjoy this moment of
self-acceptance!

3) If you feel an uncomfortable tightening or
constriction in your chest area when you ask that
question the answer is probably "No, at this moment
I am not willing to love and accept myself no matter
what".

4) If your answer is "No", ask yourself "Why Not?"
and answer the questions of why you are not willing
to love and accept yourself at this moment no matter
what.

The answer need not be at all rational. It could be
"Because I don't deserve it", or "Because I don't
know how", or "Because I'm not a good person", or
"Because [insert Name here] doesn't love me", or
"Because I eat too much".

Don't dispute or indulge the answer, just observe
it with interest. (It is, after all, only a part
of you or something in you that believes this).

4) After you answer the "Why Not?" question, ask
yourself again "At this moment am I willing to love
and accept myself no matter what?" and observe any
shifts or changes in the feeling in your chest.

5) Dr. Keith Witt recommends you practice this
sequence 5 times per day for a month. Notice your
chest loosening after you answer your "Why Not?"
questions.

Over time you will find yourself answering "Yes"
more frequently and loving and accepting yourself
mo matter what will grow your capacity for self-love.

If you want to learn more about the background of
why this works and enjoy a spirited conversation
between the amazing, highly evolved Dr. Keith Witt
and Jeff Salzman go here:
https://www.dailyevolver.com/2016/12/self-love-feeling-whole-incompleteness/

You may have to copy and paste that URL into your
browser if clicking on it doesn't open it.

I cannot think of a better Solstice Love gift than
How to love and accept yourself no matter what!

Go write it on a sticky note and paste it on your
bathroom mirror or make it a screen saver on your
phone or whatever will remind you to ask yourself.

In Love and LIGHT on this special day (today only
happens once in a lifetime),
Nina

P.S. For more lessons and learnings and exercises
to boost your love life, contact me for a complimentary
Relationship Rescue session at ninapottercoach(at) gmail.com

Gratitude is Fearlessness!

12/8/2016

Dear One,
I'm bumping along happily in my work day when it hits me,
stopping me in my tracks, then heading me for the refrigerator.

WHAT? I wonder. What is wrong with me? Why am I not
getting more done? Or THIS BLOG written? Or maybe I
distract myself by being mad at my mate... no, food is better...

I don't acknowledge that I am afraid. Afraid of What, after all?

I have everything... great health (well, my eyes have been
acting up and my vision is half what it should be), a career I
love that is meaningful, fulfilling and successful enough (but
what if it tanks this month? What will I do then?).

I have a fantastic mate (what if I screw it up and am not a good
enough partner and he gets bored or I don't give him enough
attention?) I have a modest home that I love (what if, what if,
what if...), I have food in the refrigerator, heck, I HAVE a
refrigerator!

That's when the fear starts to melt away. I used to think it
was about the food, but it is about the GRATITUDE! That
is what gets me out of fear and trouble.

I learned this from Dr. Robert Emmons, a 20 year researcher
of Gratitude. It seems he has discovered that you cannot
hold fear when you are in gratitude. And not just generic
gratitude like for being alive, but more specifically, gratitude
for things people have given me or done for me. Gratitude
for receiving more than I have given. Wow.

I see now that I was not going to the refrigerator to EAT my
way out of fear but rather to feel gratitude for my abundance
that I have not earned. None of us can ever “earn” what we
receive in our lives each day.

We CAN accept and be grateful for all that we are gifted with.
And the fear is magically gone...I can always have more than
I can ever work for. The scared, sad little inner child inside
of me relaxes a bit. She isn't being asked to do any more
to be worthy, she already just IS.

And I am free to go back about my business, doing the next
task the best I know how. And it is enough. Gratitude helps
me feel like I am enough.

Try it and see...Make a list of things people have done
for you. If you think you have done it all yourself, you
may need to dig a bit deeper and recognize all the people
who plant, grow, harvest, ship, stock, and check out your
food.

Do the same with your phone or computer or ANY
physical thing in your home. Do you have any idea what
it took to create the energy in your house? You could
probably link to a million individuals who made it
possible for you to be right there in your home.

I am humbled by this but I am no longer afraid. I am
SO supported! And none of that support comes from
me having to be perfect or worthy or anything. Just
to breathe and BE.

Be Well and Grateful My Dear One!,
Nina

P.S. If you want to learn more about love, forgiveness
and gratitude, (being happy :-) you can schedule a free
25 min. Relating for Happiness coaching session at
http://meetme.so/ninapotter or ask me a question
from the contact page here:
http://playinyourmarriage.com/contact

Ohhh, So THAT's What That Really Means

10/24/2016

Dear One,
Just in time for my World Holiday today, (Global
Oneness Day) I received the gift of understanding this
oft quoted Rumi poem from my Heart rather than my
intellect alone.

Before I say it here, I want to preface what gave
me this powerful epiphany. Two DEAR friends of
mine are not communicating because of situation(s)
that have not been healed.

They CARE about each other, LOVE each other and
want to be in relationship, but because BOTH of
them are right, (remember, every individual is
"right" from the perspective they are experiencing
from) they cannot reconcile and heal...

Even though they WANT to!

It was witnessing this from my perspective of
Care and Love for BOTH that allowed this poem to
finally enter my Heart and WOW, did that make a
difference in the impact of Rumi's message:

"Out beyond Right Doing and Wrong Doing
there is a Field... I will meet you there"

I know I have read or heard this 30 or 40 times
and understood it intellectually but never had
I received it in my heart like this.

I invite you to think about a situation in your
own life where you can witness two people you
care about and consider the wisdom of these
words in a new light.

Gleefully dancing in the field today,
Nina