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Who Are You BEing as You are DOing?

1/5/2018

Dear One,

As I contemplate how I am showing up in life today, in my work, with my mate, my friends, family and community, I am struggling against the DO monster.
I long to BE, but all of my past programming is screaming at me to DO.

"Take this action and that action and
DO SOMETHING, and get it all DONE. "

There are unfinished projects (many of them never
past the initial "buy a program or a book" phase)
and even more un started ones.

It can be so easy to get trapped in the cycle, and to
forget that what is MORE important than the DOing,
is who and how I am BEing WHILE I am Doing.

It does me little good (and potentially harm) to do
anything without my heart involved. That means
I have to be present WHILE I am Doing.

It's one thing to be Present while I eat, or exercise,
or meditate, or pray, or even write or study. But to
be Present and In my HEART when engaging with a
client or my Sweetie or a friend, family, or neighbor
is to really BE living in a connected way to life.

This is the Foundation for Relating, no matter
who you are engaging with in any moment.

HOW I show up in any activity will color and
shape my experience. All it really takes is an
awareness, in the moment, to drop down into
my heart and be aware of my energy. What
is the field I am generating?

Rupert Sheldrake wrote about "Morphogenic
Fields" and how they affect the material plane
that we all swim in. You have experienced this
phenomenon whether you were aware of it or not.

You walked into a room and you FELT something.
It might have been joyful excitement or it might
have been gloom or anything in between but you
FELT it when you entered the space.

You can create your OWN field just by being
present and accessing your heart. Your heart
electromagnetic waves have been measured
several meters out from your body, unlike the
inch or two of your brainwaves.

Knowing this, try bringing an open and loving
heart to your next activity. ESPECIALLY if it
involves a loved one. If you are having issues
with someone you care about, it will be even
more critical to meet them with this open and
loving heart and an intention to LEARN.

Set up this field no matter WHAT you are doing
and see what it feels like to be BEing as you
do what you do. Experiment and enjoy the
fruits of LIVING FULLY no matter what you have
before you.

More on this next time when I share the
practice of Blessing Everything.
Just warming up,
Nina

P.S. If you want to learn more, faster, or just
want to get notified when I post more thoughts
or recommendations, you can register HERE

How To Love Yourself Course with SAMPLE Call

11/8/2017

Dear One,

Whether you have read the ebook on Inner Bonding
or not, I HIGHLY recommend this 7 week course
on How To FINALLY Learn to Love Yourself by Dr.
Margaret Paul.

You can access a free sample introduction to see
if it is something you would benefit from here:

https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/6s/ninapotter

Do you know that self-abandonment is one of the
major causes of anxiety, depression, loneliness,
addictions, and relationship problems?

You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel when
you discover how to value who you truly are, how
to heal old false beliefs, and how to connect with
your personal source of higher wisdom, love, and
compassion.

This 7-week virtual workshop will give you a roadmap
for understanding how to love yourself in ANY
relationship — with a partner, family, friends,
children, parents, co-workers, and professionals.

The tools of Inner Bonding will give you the ability
to heal fears of rejection and engulfment that may
stand in the way of intimacy — as well as giving
you the tools you need to move out of codependency
and into emotional freedom.

As you learn how to see, value, and love your true
self, you will discover what has heart and meaning
for you, what gives you passion and your life purpose.

In the first session, “Beginning Your Inner Journey.”
you’ll discover:

* 4 different aspects of yourself that need to be
   understood and eventually integrated
* The intent to learn about loving yourself and the
   intent to avoid pain through some form of
   controlling behavior
* Various forms of controlling behavior that stem
   from self-rejection and self-abandonment
* How to integrate your essence, ego-wounded self,
   loving adult and higher Self on another level
* The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding
* A practice to make you aware of the consequences
   of each intention

Seriously, I love this work SO MUCH that I recently
completed a 9 MONTH course with her through this
same SHIFT NETWORK. It's amazingly effective when
you practice it!

Hope you can check it out as even this free intro
call is full of useful content:

https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/6s/ninapotter

In Joy!,
Nina

The Sinatra Syndrome according to Swami Beyondananda

10/27/2017

"A common affliction in our society is what is called the Sinatra Syndrome - a do-be-do-be-do imbalance - caused by too much doing and not enough being. So if you find yourself spending all your time being a doer, relax, take a break and do a beer instead."
-- Swami Beyondananda

HaHaHA!, one of my favorites from Steve Bhaerman's
alter ego, the one and only Swami Beyondananda.

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In Joy!
Nina

Be Happy IN Your Situation but Not WITH It

10/3/2017

Dear One,

I feel your pain when a situation is not what you
imagined for your life or the life of another.

That could be your marriage or career, your spouse,
your child, parent, neighbor, or someone you don't
even know who lives far away and is hungry or in a
war zone or reeling from a mass shooting.

When we feel strong feelings about something, whether that be sadness, anger, or despair, it is a signal
that we are experiencing something we are not aligned with.

It is an opportunity to be aware of what we want INSTEAD!

These early warning signs can be useful to help us
identify what we want to move toward.  When we can
accept that what IS is what we have to move from or
away from, we can still find contentment IN our
situation as a “Growth Edge” for our personal
development and evolution.

That does not mean we have to settle for any kind of
contentment WITH it.

We want to have the drive and motivation (or Better
Yet, INSPIRATION) to make changes in our (or the
world's) situation but not at the Expense of our
Well Being, which is all about being content with
what IS.

When we strive to find solutions to issues we are
not content WITH from a place of Well Being (or
contentment IN), we have better outcomes.

We are able to work better with those we are in
conflict with, resulting in more of what we want.

We access higher intuition and creativity and are
able to make better choices and decisions.

If you are trying to make changes in your life or
the life of others, stop for a moment and notice
if you are trading your inner Well Being for nothing
and thus hindering your success.

There will be less friction and resistance to your
efforts when you approach this situation from
your contentment in your growth and learning while
you do the work of changing that which is
displeasing you.

In Love and Awe for YOU in your efforts,
Nina

P.S. If you yearn for both more contentment in your life
AND for changes in what you are experiencing, contact
me for a complimentary Loving My Life Now coaching
session to see what can be possible for you!

Call me at 651-214-6803 or email to
nina(at)ninapottercoach.com or schedule your 30
minute consultation at http://meetme.so/ninapotter

6 Steps to Finally, Truly Loving Yourself

9/28/2017

Hello My Dear One,
I often talk about how you need to Love Yourself
in order to be able to share the love you HAVE,
rather than try to 'get' love from outside yourself.

The Inner Bonding Method with Dr. Margaret Paul is
one of the fastest ways to learn how to get the
healing, liberation and ability to live in joy that
we all crave inside.

I’m excited to introduce you to world-renowned
psychologist Margaret Paul’s tools and practices for
receiving deep, unconditional love… from within.

I’d like to invite you to join her on Wednesday,
October 4, for 6 Steps to Finally, Truly Loving
Yourself: How to Access the Love You Never Received
& Live in Profound Joy.

You can find out more and register here for this
FREE virtual event: Click HERE

During this special session of the Inner Bonding method,
you’ll find out about techniques for working with your
emotional pain, anxiety and fear — so that you can form
healthy attachments with the parts of you that have felt
unworthy… and truly LOVE yourself.

In this free virtual event, you will:

* Receive insights into the core cause of depression,
anxiety and most addictive behaviors, from substance
abuse to technology.

* Discover the 4 most common signs of self-abandonment --
and how to fill the emptiness from the INSIDE.

* Realize the #1 cause of relationship problems… and how
to address it.

* Begin to access your “causeless joy” and your
intrinsic worth independent of outer circumstances and
accomplishments.

The process of Inner Bonding teaches you how to “parent”
yourself at the deepest levels so that you can finally
experience true love for yourself… consistently.

Join us for this illuminating and practical hour-long
virtual event by registering here: Click HERE

I will be there too because I learn something every time
I hear Dr. Margaret Paul speak (and I just finished a 9
month immersion in her method!)

Let's Share our Well Being,
Nina

P.S. Everyone who registers for "6 Steps to Finally,
Truly Loving Yourself: How to Access the Love You Never
Received & Live in Profound Joy" will also receive the
AUDIO RECORDING afterward. (I re-listen to these many
times)

As always, if you want one to one private coaching,
contact me at 651-214-6803 or schedule your session
here: http://meetme.so/ninapotter

Care Package for Stress and Anxiety

9/25/2017

Relief is available from my favorite Resource!

https://www.heartmath.com/freeresources/

It has been harrowing watching my Sweetie ride out
Hurricane Irma and her howling Category 5 destrucion
only to have BOTH Jose AND Maria on her heels.

Fortunately he was able to get a sea plane ferry off
the decimated island of St. Thomas and a flight out
of St. Croix so he was safe and sound before Maria
hit there again.

Between the horrific destruction on Puerto Rico and
so many beautiful Caribbean islands, the toxic chemical
flooding in Texas along with TWO devastating Earth
quakes in Mexico and lethal flooding in Nepal, there
is a LOT of collective fear, stress, and anxiety going on.

Please share the above link with anyone (including
yourself!) that may be feeling the effects of life and
it's unending challenges so that they might begin the
healing and important growth from them.

I know these tools work, because I have been using
them with great success.

Be WELL with added Heart Focused Breathing,
Nina
P.S.
If you want additional help in building up your
resiliency battery, schedule a complimentary
Wellness Jump Start session to explore the
possibilities!:
http://meetme.so/ninapotter

Peace begins INSIDE, but this Helps too!

8/27/2017

During 11 Days of Global Unity, leading changemakers from around the globe will be gathering for this powerful event — sharing a comprehensive blueprint of practical evolution for a peaceful, sustainable, transformed world.

Be among a worldwide community of proactive peacebuilders who are discovering how to BE peace while promoting peace…

I know that you’re Big Hearted too and I’d love to have you
join these powerful 11 days:
RSVP — at no charge!:
11 Days of Global Unity

I invite you to tune in each day as the amazing speakers
discuss and celebrate 11 campaigns for change:
September 11 – Unity with Marianne Williamson
September 12 – Interdependence with Michael Bernard Beckwith &
Steve Farrell
September 13 – Environment with H.H. Sheikh Abdul Aziz
September 14 – Economic Justice with Nwamaka Agbo
September 15 – Health with Dr. Rangan Chatterjee & James Maskell
September 16 – Children And Youth with Carlos Palma
September 17 – Women with Sande Hart, Despina Namwembe &
Tiffani Sharp
September 18 – Human Rights with Robert Thurman
September 19 – Freedom with Ralph Nader
September 20 – Disarmament with Jonathan Granoff
September 21 – Peace with Deepak Chopra

RSVP here — at no charge:
11 Days of Global Unity

Here are just a few highlights from what they’ll be
sharing with you:

Deepak Chopra will examine the nature of peace…
whether peace is possible amid the widespread
polarization in our society, and the connection
between individual compassion and health and
collective wellbeing and peace.
Marianne Williamson will discuss the importance
of unity for America and the world — now more than
ever — and she’ll reveal her inspiring spiritual journey
from A Course in Miracles to activism and politics.
Ralph Nader will explore current threats to freedom
and democracy, concentrations of wealth and
power, political polarization and intolerance…
and offer various solutions to these challenging issues.

Michael Beckwith and Steve Farrell will consider the
social, political and environmental challenges for our
completely interdependent world — offering words of
wisdom and inspiration around values, ethics and spirit.

Nwamaka Agbo will speak to the catastrophic rising
economic inequality, how it’s threatening many aspects
of our society, and what we can do about it.

Sande Hart will address the challenges women face
around the world, and explore local-to-global solutions
for women’s empowerment — including the mission
and activities of the Charter For Compassion’s
Women and Girls Sector.

Robert Thurman will shed light on the current
human rights situation for the people in Tibet…
as well as the social and political turmoil in the
United States and its implications for Tibet.

Tiffani Sharp will share about exciting and
innovative projects in women’s empowerment
around the world — including the the hopeful work
she’s doing to confront the realities of human trafficking
on local and international levels.

11 Days of Global Unity is produced in partnership with We,
The World, a non-profit organization that develops
global networks of collaboration and organizes
campaigns to build mass involvement in creating a
peaceful, caring and sustainable world.

Join in, and end summer on a high note… inspired by ALL
of the great ways peacebuilders are uniting around the
world to create a better world that works for all!

RSVP here — at no charge:
11 Days of Global Unity

GET FIT TOGETHER! (Even if They don't want to)

5/29/2017

Starts Monday!
Free Summit to Help You with
proven strategies for unifying your family in health/fitness...
[21 Experts Share Their Secrets]

Want to learn the secrets of unifying your family on the path to health/fitness and ultimate happiness?
Great! Because I’m speaking in an exciting interview series brought to you by Dr. Paul and his wife Bethany.

We’ll be joined by 20 other leading experts who will be sharing their latest, cutting-edge tips & strategies to unify your family on the path to health & fitness for
FOCUS ON FITNESS TOGETHER SUMMIT
Here’s what you will be discovering:

Tips for making food fun for the whole family and strategies to deal with picky eaters
Super successful couples do what other couples refuse to
Tips to make your home a health/wellness sanctuary
Self-reflection is number one step in change for self and family
How well-meaning partners or friends interfere with fitness goals and tips to deal with this situation.
And much, much more!

This event is going to happen once. That means if you miss out on registering now, you miss out on it forever.
But here’s the best part:
It’s 100% free.
So, that means, all you have to do is claim your spot by registering below:
Sign me up for this free event

Be sure to sign up because during my interview, I’ll be sharing with you some great advice on uniting your family in health/fitness and ultimate happiness!
Look forward to seeing you in the summit!

Be WELL,
Nina
P.S. If you need more one to one help, you can schedule a personal session with me by using this link: http://meetme.so/ninapotter or call me at 651-214-6803 or
email to nina(at)ninapottercoach.com

An Opportunity for More Happiness and Ease

5/12/2017

Hello Dear One,

While I am out of the office conducting the latest
Magical Marriage Retreat, there is an opportunity
to learn some useful skills (including the ones that
built up my resiliency so I could handle my broken
arm so graciously).

It's time again for my favorite HeartMath free webinar
through the Shift Network. You can register at
no cost for the free introductory call (once
registered you will receive a link to the recording
whether you attend live or not) AND you will get
access to the follow up Q&A call too!

Register to learn scientifically validated, simple
practices to be heart-happy, wise, and resilient:
https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/3k/ninapotter

Practice ways to experience more joy, ease and a
sense of flow throughout your day.

You have heard me talk about these tools before, so
this is a chance to go more in depth whether you
just listen to the 2 free calls or take the whole
course.

Enjoy!
Nina

How To Tell If You Are Loving Yourself

5/10/2017

Hello Dear One,
How can you tell in any given moment if you are
open hearted and loving yourself?

Think of someone who you often judge for hurting
you in the past. Notice how you are feeling about
them right now. If you ran into them in a public
place, what would be your reaction?

This is an excellent measure of how you are feeling
about yourself in this moment.

When we are expanded, open and accepting of ourselves,
we feel that way toward others. We are able to
experience them as they are without judgment and pain.

When we are contracted, judging and unloving toward
ourselves, we will feel that way about this "other"
person. We see them as flawed, defective and missing
something important, just as we see ourselves in that
moment.

Stop and take a deep breath, dropping attention down
into the heart. Be with the breath and the heart and
Remember Who You Really Are. Remember that you are
not separate, but one with all life and every element
and loved by your Source (you can call it God, The
Universe, All That Is, etc.).

Notice when you are feeling uncharitable about others
and reflect on how you are feeling about yourself.

What are you judging about yourself in this moment?
Can you bring compassion and understanding, love and
acceptance to yourself in this moment right now?

If not, ask yourself why not? What is it that keeps
you from loving and accepting yourself right now?

Notice again if you can love and accept yourself as
you are in this moment. Notice any shift. then think
about that person you were judging harshly just before.
Notice how that may have shifted with how you are NOW
feeling about yourself.

Tell yourself "Everything is Always Working Out" and
Enjoy a shift in experience toward more easefulness.

Be Well and Enjoy The Ride!,
Nina

P.S. If you need help with processing hurts from the
past contact me for a New Perspective Session by
calling 651-214-6803 or or email to:
ninapottercoach(at)gmail.com