I am pondering this as I look at my (accidently) over committed life and my relationships that needs nurturing and my soul that needs rest and my body that needs rejuvenation. Yet I have made progress in some stuck areas because of my commitment to write this blog for 14 days.
I am needing my weekend to rest my body, refresh my soul, nurture my relationships, and catch up just a little bit. I know it can’t ever be all done but I have to make SOME small forward movement in several time sensitive areas.
So I am contemplating taking 2 days of rest from the writing to focus on these areas that I have neglected for the past 12 days while I stayed up late after work to write. “Am I quitting?” I ask myself. “What good is my commitment if I don’t do all 14 days in a row?”.
Then it dawns on me… “I said 14 days, I only ASSUMED that meant committed to 14 days IN A ROW. “Is that slippery?” I ask myself. I think about who it will affect… Me = Positive, Everybody Else? = Will not be affected at all. “Why didn’t I specify 14 BUSINESS days up front? “ I whine to myself.
Then it dawns on me… I can be quitted for the weekend AND committed if I pick it back up on Monday and finish the 14 days during the work week. I will strengthen my ‘get-back-to-it’ muscles (I had neglected several meditations, yoga, and workouts this week) at the same time.
I think about the other things I have intentionally QUIT in my life and realize I have no regrets for the tradeoffs I have made. I may have been a much better gymnast, guitar player, piano player, actor, etc had I stuck to it but do I even WANT to do those things today? A bit, but I also know that I never wanted them ENOUGH to ever be really good at them anyway.
So what about the writing? I actually DO want to continue this! I DO want to pick it back up! I DO want to work hard enough at it to be GOOD at it. That takes commitment, and sometimes commitment also takes quitment for a day or two to rest and get perspective.
And my relationships? I NEVER quit on them… I will be with my Sweetie, play with our friends, visit my Folks, and take care of some of my OTHER projects so that I can be the best coach I can be for my clients. I made a Both/And decision that supports me fully and has taught me how to get more in the end.
Enjoy YOUR weekend to it’s fullest while being in alignment with your highest values. Remember your relationships and how they support everything else you do.
In quitment for commitment,